Humanist

Who are your current most favorite people?

Without a doubt, among my current most favorite people, are my legal team, Okalang Law Chambers (OLC), with Mr. Allan Ogoi, as first chair. Among the reason why so, is because tomorrow, 25th November 2025, this year’s sixteen days of activism against gender-based violence begin, through to 10th December.

Since I was introduced to them in 2022, a damsel in distress, Mr. Ogoi and his team are putting up a robust legal battle on my behalf against my abuser. Believed a male relative, my abuser is one deficient of manhood.

Deficient manhood not necessarily of erectile dysfunction variety, but could be, for you never know, for it could be the reason he is an abuser. Manifesting his inferiority complex in toxic ways misguided as superiority.

In my context, however, deficient manhood is of a man so generously endowed with the feeling he is “failing to meet their society’s prescribed standards for being a “real man,” which often leads to psychological strain, anxiety, and compensatory behaviors.”

Certainly, it is the case within the central logic of the culture of my people, the Iteso, currently the fourth largest first nation of Uganda. Within the culture-normal of Iteso, in terms of fitting within the category of those with deficient manhood, my abuser fits the bill.

His cruel compensatory behaviors towards me are the very essence of gender-based violence. Damaging my orchard valued in the hundreds of millions of shillings. Physical harassment and denying me peaceful enjoyment of my farmlands and my ancestral home.

While obnoxiously he is aided by a particular breed of females believed relatives and seemingly by crocked members of Uganda Police Force, some whom he likely conned into it and since regret it. But still they abused public office and their positions of power. They were derelict in fulfilling their crucial policing roles.

Worse more, he was seemingly aided by a certain type of judicial officer whose ruling an appellant judge described as “appalling to say the least,” after which she set it aside in may favor. My legal team are doing their very best to ensure that mine will simply be a case of justice delayed and not justice ultimately denied.

This is Mr. Ogoi, who is “a Fellow of the Chartered Institute of Arbitrators and ADR expert registered in the UK, Kenya and Uganda. Practices under CIArb, CADER and ICAMEK. Leads OLC’s ADR department with appearances and advisory in international and domestic arbitrations across commercial sectors.” For more on his legal battle on my behalf, I invite you to CLICK HERE and read.

I share this my rant in conjunction with sixteen days of activism against gender based violence, 2025, being commemorated under the them “Unite to End Digital Violence against all women and Girls.”

It is my conviction, that without women leading by example and speaking out and up about our own experiences against gender-based violence offline, chances are, violence online rests on a solid foundation.

To shake and dismantle that toxic foundation, we must find the courage to overcome the shame, speak out and speak up.

And when we are able to, we must fight legal battles until we triumph. We need more legal precedents set, the basis on which more fair justice my be dispensed against gender-based violence.

May my legal team and I triumph and set legal precedent!